Duplicity

“Do as Romans when in Rome” – many people have misinterpreted this proverb. They have translated it like, “Behave like a King when you are really a pauper”. No offence to Kings or paupers; it is just a reference.

I find it very absurd and annoying when people pretend. Do not pretend who you are. Not only are you throwing people off from who you really are but you are also paving way for future disappointments.

When you pretend it shows how much you respect yourself. People with low esteem pretend; they consider themselves not worthy of the people and the things in their life. Why else would they pretend?

You look pathetic when you try to pull off that uber-chick and cool-dude attitude when you really are not. Call me caustic, but I am just being plain honest.

Don’t ask “Whaddup?” to your close friend. Ask him/her, “Machi epdi iruka?” or “Donkey, epdi di iruka?” depending on the context. Pretending will make your friend either jolt or bolt; depending on how stupid you sounded. The friend is probably never going to talk to you the same way he or she did in the past. Worst, he/she might never talk to you at all.

While you are so busy pretending to be someone else, you lose your real self along the way. It might get you the temporary attention you want (not need); but it will destroy the permanent relationships you need.

The more you pretend the more frustrated you become with yourself. Moreover, pretending can take its toll on your mental health as well. You should recall the famous Vadivelu dialogue here, “Nanum evlo neram dhan valikadha madhiriye nadikiradhu!”

Remember the people who like the real you are probably the ones who are going to stick to you for a lifetime. However, if you tick them off you are probably never going to get them back.

Do not question the way you are. Accept and cherish it. You will probably be happier than you ever imagined.

P.S.
I wrote this to give vent to my frustration. So people please bear with me for my rudeness!